STORY OF MY LOVE LIFE: 

My Life was so Complicated that I never knew I can marry such a Man after all the misfortune that love brought to me.

I share this story to inspire other ladies out there who feels that all hope is lost in her life.

If  God can turn my situation around, then your own testimony is at hand.

I initially never had the courage to share my story here because I felt like I was the most unluckiest person in the world.

But as I read testimonies of other ladies  posted here in “Single To Married” FB page, it motivated me to share this summary of my life/love story that turned out to place me in a status I never had imagined in my life.

My name is Dumebi, I was born and brought up in Asaba, Delta State to a family of eleven that lives together under the same roof, which to me was fun when growing up, every day feels like a party. My mom is a primary school teacher and my dad is an automotive mechanics. I have 8 siblings. I'm the fifth child.

When I was in primary school every weekend we're always out working on the family farm and some other times we’re out hawking in the street to complement the efforts of our parents,  no one is exempted.

Years go by, my elder siblings were not able to further their education beyond secondary school due to lack of fund.  Some took up jobs/vocations in different areas while my elder sister married early at the age of 18.

With resilience and persistence, I was able to get admission at the Polytechnic  and  I came out with  Upper Credit in Mass Communication in 2006 and got my first paid job as a private school teacher in Asaba.

My growing up was laced with sad tales of misfortunes from the streets.

I was 17 years old when I first dated and the man was 24 years old. He's a sweet, kind, loveable, caring, understanding and respectful guy.  He loved me more than anything. But sad to say our relationship only lasted for 9 months because he had a fatal accident that caused his death in 2001 before I entered the Polytechnic.

I received a call from his friend in one cold day in November, 2001 that Chike was involved in a serious car crash and had being rushed to the hospital. I lived an hour away from them but, I made it to the hospital in minutes to find my best friend and love writhing in pains. He suffered brain fracture, broken collar bone, 3 ribs, entire right arm, wrist, hand, shoulder, and a punctured lung.

Though he managed to smile when I came in, but he suffered memory loss and was not able to fully recognize me. He later died after 1 month in the hospital and that to me was a big heartbreak in my life.

 His death turned my world into total darkness and takes me longer to get over it.

Then 3 years after, I give myself a second chance at relationship, that was in the year 2004 when I was done with my ND. I met Henry where I went to do Industrial Training (IT) in Lagos and fell in love again. our relationship grew stronger by the day. I am a bit conservative but he’s ready to tolerate my shortcomings.

We went through a lot of ups and downs but we managed to get through all of it. After 4 years of relationship with him, he proposed for marriage during my 24th birthday in 2008 and of course, I said YES. 

Well, we started to get busy with preparing for the wedding and we both agree that we're going to get married during my 25th birthday. It was wonderful to hear that I'm going say "I DO” on my birthday.

Henry studied Marine Engineering in school and lives in Lagos where he works as a Seaman to a shipping company.

As our wedding date was approaching, Henry came back home to complete some of the traditional marriage rites, he told me that he needed to get back to work then he will be home one month before the wedding day. His family and my family were busy with the preparations. 

I had already booked my wedding gown, all the invitations are printed we just need to send them out, the reception venue had been paid for and the wedding giveaways was half-way done.

Then came last week of May, 2009 the cargo ship that my fiancee was working with is going to dock in Tincan Island, Lagos for maintenance. We decided to meet within that period, the original plan was that I would be there for the entire week which is fine with me. Even though we are engaged we still respect each others' privacy.

Earlier in our relationship, Henry helped me to create my Faceb00k  account because I didn’t have one when I met him and he also did the same for himself. We created our FB account together. I know his password and he knew my password as well. I know that he's been checking my FB account once in a while which is fine with me and I never opened his FB all these years.

One day, I felt some impulse and so I decided to login into his FB account a week before I'm going to travel to Lagos to meet him and he didn't change his password so I managed to login. 

Yes, I read all the conversations with the people he chatted with on FB, including Fumnanya (a lady that I so-called my best friend) and their conversations made me angry because I found out that they’re having some bonds behind my back.

So,  I told Henry that I couldn't make it to Lagos that week because of my work though it was because of my anger. And it surprised me that he didn’t bother to ask me the kind of work-related issues that caused my one week delay of coming to Lagos to meet him.

I have to take permission from work that same week and decided to surprise my fiancé by showing up earlier than expected but that turned out to be one of the darkest moment of my life.

After 2 days, I left Asaba to Lagos unannounced and on reaching Henry’s apartment, I caught my fiancee and my so-called best friend Fumnanya on the act cheating on me.

I was so mad and it made me feel terrible. From there, I travelled back home sobbing and felt sorry for myself. He even called me to ask me for a favor not to tell his family about what was happened and I granted his request.

The sad news was my so-called best friend a month after those incidents claimed that she was pregnant and Henry is the father. So, I have to make a decision for the sake of the innocent child and I also thought that there is a big possibility that he's going to cheat on me over and over again.

Then come July 2009, my fiancee was home and we had a family dinner with his family and my family. On that day, I decided to take the courage to speak out and back off the wedding 7 weeks before the day that I supposed to "GET MARRIED TO MY FIANCEE". It's not easy for me to make those decisions but I believe I did the right thing. It took me forever to get over it and the scars would remain forever.

I never dated for a long time after I broke up with Henry. I went back to school  to further my education and I also got a new job in a Telecom Company. My daily routine is more like the same, from  school to work and back home.

From 2009 to 2011 I dated 3 different men with each relationship ending with its sad tales of a devastating heartbreak within a short-while without any tangible reason for the separation.

……and to crown it all,

in my last relationship I got pregnant for one of the men who had already come to see my family for introduction but he later abandoned me and denied patency of the pregnancy and in the heat of his denial he travelled outside the country and excommunicated me and there was no means of getting across to him.

I just recently found out that his ex-girlfriend that he dated while in University here in Nigeria who now lives and work  in England came back and helped him to process his papers and they secretly did a court marriage before they travelled back to England together. He had been in touch with her all these while.

Sadly!!!

I never thought that the man would hurt me so much after my past experiences. He even unfriend me in Facebook and blocked me on all social media platforms.

Here is me again sitting in this corner of the world with tears dealing with a heartache because of my so-called lover. I know it may sound stupid but the feelings I have for him was real.

The days that followed were some of the worst in my life, I would wander places alone aimlessly, I lost all meaning to life, I attempted suicide multiple times (I almost succeeded once), I hated life. 

I went through the hassles of the pregnancy all alone as I decided that I must give birth to the baby. In the year 2012 at the age of 28yrs I gave birth to a boy and I was doing my best to ensure that I give my child a good life. 

I worked extra hard as a single mother to fend for my kid and decided to concentrate and leave men out of my life

And from that 2012 to 2015, I didn’t go on even one  single date with any man, I wasn’t ready to squash my already broken pieces of heart. I didn’t want to spare a thought for men or the search for a partner.

I was so thankful to myself for keeping the child because he became my only source of joy and I was 100% commited to him and my work. I made myself a promise to rather live alone than in an unhappy or messy relationship.  

I detested men so much that even if Cupid himself was on his knees right in front of me, I wouldn’t even notice. But later on that year 2015 When my son had attained 3yrs and started  school I was having difficulty taking him to and fro school without taking unnecessary excuses at work so I decided to send him to stay with my mum and I do visit them every weekend. This routine continued till my son reached 5years in 2017.

By then I have already started feeling the urge to get married to a man I can call my own.

In December, 2017 I was browsing through Facebook when I came across the Single To Married page and the testimonies of different ladies I read that day concerning their relationships  gave me hope but by then, I had grown to become hard-hearted that I don’t easily believe people. 

But I kept coming to the page to read testimonies and stories of other ladies anytime I have the chance and it was there I learnt about the eBook “How To Attract The Perfect Husband”and the “Single To Married Prayer Warfare Program” including the 3^rd book that comes together with it as bonus.

After over a month of visiting the page, I decided to order for the eBooks from the website and read through and that gave me the opportunity to know the author of the eBooks (Mr. Emeka) who I later learnt is a Relationship/Marriage Counsellor. 

I do call him for counseling in some occasion. The first time we discussed, I narrated my story to him. And my major question to him that day was whether it is possible for a single parent like me to still get married to my ideal partner having had a child at home and also approaching 34yrs.

And his response totally gave me a fresh confidence in myself and my quest to settle down.

He told me that it is 100% possible only if my heart is ready to forgive past experiences and open my heart for a new beginning. And he went further to give me an instance that his own wife was a single mother before he met her but having heard all the truth from her when they were dating he made up his mind to marry her and today there are living happily together with 2 kids.

This became a morale booster to me.

And I took time to read the 48 pages of that eBook ensuring that I followed every instruction to the later and the following week I used it to do the 7Days Single To Married Prayer with the eBook.  

After this I started practicing gratitude. My whole mindset about men and relationship changed and I started living life differently, while implementing all I learnt. One month passed and nothing happened, then came the second month and it seems same but I started getting approaches from men after over 5yrs of being lonely,

…and I kept practicing all the attraction triggers I learnt.  

When I call him (Mr Emeka) he will tell me to be consistent in doing the things I learnt from the books and never give up.

But by early April, 2018 which is the 3^rd month. I met Stanley a Civil Engineer working with Setraco who happens to be the Site Manager at one of the Storm Water Control Projects in Asaba, Delta State. He fits into the picture of the kind of man my heart earnestly desires.

during our first date I was pensive as I don’t want to lose him if he finds out I’m a single mother. But then I remembered that one of the first rule I learnt from the eBook is to believe in myself and be confident of who I am. Stanley is a very handsome young man and I felt I am not worthy to have him, but then I had to be confident of myself.

And before then Mr Emeka in one of his counselling session with me had told me not to tell any potential suitor that I’m a single mum in our first date. He told me that if I do that there is a 50% chance that the man will not come back. 

He advised that I have to first let the man understand me and know about all my good sides before I will reveal that probably in subsequent date when the man already have enough background information about me so that he can weigh his options. (And I did exactly that)

After about two weeks of knowing Stanley I had to open up to him in our subsequent date, after listening to my story I was a bit jittery on what his response will be but he told me that  He already knew some of the things I said about me, even about my past relationship, but he said that he don’t care that they’re all in the past now. 

He is the type of guy I always wanted, sincere, loving, caring and very responsible. Within 3 months of dating him we got engaged with the blessings of both of our families.

I finally got married to him on 4^th of August, 2018 at the age of 34.  And we had been living happily ever since then, Infact we are expecting our first baby together as I’m writing this.

Stanley came into my life and helped me to amend all the broken pieces of my heart. He allows me to be myself, he gives me emotional support and always keeps me laughing when things get stressed. I've felt like I've known him forever since the first day of meeting him.

I Bless God for being faithful to me and also thank Mr. Emeka for all his Counselling, advice and the eBooks. I strongly recommend that if you’re a lady who wish to have  a  positive change in your love life, you should give this eBook (How To Attract The Perfect Husband) a trial. It’s really worth it. God will surely bless him for his good works.

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I am  now so happy and blessed with all the love a lady can wish for in life.

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